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I and my wife have been married for close to 5 years now and we have a 2 year old baby.

The issue I'm having with my wife is that she has become a liability to me, she doesn't want to do anything.

I opened a business for her which I have spent almost 3m+, she doesn't even go to the business, I've paid rent twice on the place but I'm not sure she has even made upto 100k from it.

She doesn't do anything at home aside from cooking, she just wakes up in the morning and press her phone from morning till night, she won't sweep or clean the house, I can't even have an unexpected guest in my house because the house is always dirty and everything. The kitchen always looks like a cesspool of infection because she can't even clean it

All she wants to do is take pictures and look fine, recently she complained that I don't give her money for her upkeep and I told her that the reason I opened the business for you is so you can have your own personal income as a woman.

Through out last year, all the money I made I didn't see anything (I just struggled to get a car), because of expenses of my family and my wife isn't helping out at all.

She wants expensive things and she doesn't want to work. I'm really considering my options in the marriage because I can't continue living with that sort of a woman.

What did you expect when you get married to an ayebota lady?. Chaiiii 😄😄 u neva see sumtin!

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Hello

U saw it coming but ignore this sign... alot of naiaja ladies hate to work but love to spend money... U see them, sleep from morning till afternoon, den log on tiktok and laff from afternoon till night, den evening time they call and visit their guy ND giv him sex...

And later tax him

Shalommy:
What did you expect when you get married to an ayebota lady?. Chaiiii 😄😄 u neva see sumtin!

that one no be ajebutter but a lazy asshole. What's the purpose of marriage sef

Hmm

Wakatumbit:
I and my wife have been married for close to 5 years now and we have a 2 year old baby.

The issue I'm having with my wife is that she has become a liability to me, she doesn't want to do anything.

I opened a business for her which I have spent almost 3m+, she doesn't even go to the business, I've paid rent twice on the place but I'm not sure she has even made upto 100k from it.

She doesn't do anything at home aside from cooking, she just wakes up in the morning and press her phone from morning till night, she won't sweep or clean the house, I can't even have an unexpected guest in my house because the house is always dirty and everything. The kitchen always looks like a cesspool of infection because she can't even clean it

All she wants to do is take pictures and look fine, recently she complained that I don't give her money for her upkeep and I told her that the reason I opened the business for you is so you can have your own personal income as a woman.

Through out last year, all the money I made I didn't see anything (I just struggled to get a car), because of expenses of my family and my wife isn't helping out at all.

She wants expensive things and she doesn't want to work. I'm really considering my options in the marriage because I can't continue living with that sort of a woman.

If we advice you to get her a contender now u will be forming simp just like always...women will never be triggered unless they feel uncomfortable or sense there is a contender behind the corner.

But anyways, put up with her excesses afterall u were once a balogun leyin obirin. The sweet tin is that any attempt to change her will land you in hot soup and names calling and all

Watch as ur single fellow men, born just recently, who are still simping like u did then, gives you advice and even blame you for trying to choke the woman with work.

Some who doesn't even have source of income, who can't pay rent comfortably, who doesn't even make up to 100k a month will be telling you that 3m is too small to start something in the economy

Well, it's a merry go round thing, u had once played the know all guy, now its time to face the reality.

U re welcome to the crew bro

Wow this is serious,

My own is we came alone, we leave alone. If you can't work fine, you will learn to manage, she is an adult am meant to raise my children not partners. Always it my mistakes, na to dey form broke o. People way i no borrow from will form i borrowed. Please learn to talk less or, complain then focus more on yourself improvement. Reduce sex too, na there format you go use for them. No need for contender them always pretend first and take one for granted when being selfless. No threat just do your bearable minimum without explanation. Sometimes quite a lot of people aint hold responsible for their actions. Hold yourself responsible by responding has an independent adult.

starpower:
My own is we came alone, we leave alone. If you can't work fine, you will learn to manage, she is an adult am meant to raise my children not partners. Always it my mistakes, na to dey form broke o. People way i no borrow from will form i borrowed. Please learn to talk less or, complain then focus more on yourself improvement. Reduce sex too, na there format you go use for them. No need for contender them always pretend first and take one for granted when being selfless. No threat just do your bearable minimum without explanation. Sometimes quite a lot of people aint hold responsible for their actions. Hold yourself responsible by responding has an independent adult.

Managed such before those that genuinely care improved, those that felt they settled for me moved on. Both ways my life was better.

@Op If all what you wrote is the truth, you have a lot of work to do. Firstly, you need to sit her down and state what you want from her in of so that you can have a peaceful home. Secondly, stop giving in to all her financial needs. Thirdly, lead by example as in cleaning the house together on your idle hour and instruct her on the you want henceforth. As per business, don't invest on her if she is not vast in the type of business

Is a thin line between rich and broke and that lady will make you broke if you don’t stop giving into her needs..Stop being a SIMP bro and give that lady the ultimatum..Report to her parents and if she don’t change then dump her sharp before you go broke..She’s becoming a liability to you(btw) if she stays on her phone all day then you need to check yourself before you wreck yourself..

Did you marry her yourself or was she married for you?

I am very sure the signs were there while you both were dating.

u got me laughing here "like a cesspool of infection because she can't even clean it"

Bro this is serious and needs wisdom to handle.

Not all of us are business savvy. There are men like her who are best in collecting salaries and doing minimal jobs.

She's your wife and unfortunately she has become a burden for you to carry. Find a way of managing her

GenZ wives of nowadays na so Dem be. Carry your cross Mpa. May the good LORD be your strength. Amen.

I'm sure all the signs were there when you guys were dating, but you ignored because you were in "love".... Sometimes, love isn't enough for marriages

anonymuz:
that one no be ajebutter but a lazy asshole. What's the purpose of marriage sef

Marriage legitimizes the children of a man.

End of.

Set Boundaries to keep your marriage healthy- stop giving her money only
I. Only provide for your kid and stop providing her money.
2. Anything that involves your kid e.g food, diaper, doctor visit or anything else - just pay directly
3. Get househelp to clean the house during the day only if she refuses to clean
4. For food, if she does not cook. Then order food for outside and if you can cook , then cook for yourself and household

Didn't you notice all this wen you're dating her. Because she has manipulate you with useless sex then and you feel sex is everything. From your write up she has been like this but you don't feel the red flag is enough. I keep telling me if na marriage no pity woman go for ur type of it will take you years to keep trying do it. Just imagine the hell you're facing. A woman who's dirty like this irritate me. Still unpon her dirtiness she can't still do business to assist you. Spit I'm sure she can't cook better too genzee

Shalommy:
What did you expect when you get married to an ayebota lady?. Chaiiii 😄😄 u neva see sumtin!

Haha, she might even be a gen z

Gboom:
@Op If all what you wrote is the truth, you have a lot of work to do. Firstly, you need to sit her down and state what you want from her in of so that you can have a peaceful home. Secondly, stop giving in to all her financial needs. Thirdly, lead by example as in cleaning the house together on your idle hour and instruct her on the you want henceforth. As per business, don't invest on her if she is not vast in the type of business

Sit her down? That line has already become stale. An adult that's old enough to know what to do is who they should sit down? Better stop giving these kinds of advices.

atoliman:
Set Boundaries to keep your marriage healthy- stop giving her money only
I. Only provide for your kid and stop providing her money.
2. Anything that involves your kid e.g food, diaper, doctor visit or anything else - just pay directly
3. Get househelp to clean the house during the day only if she refuses to clean
4. For food, if she does not cook. Then order food for outside and if you can cook , then cook for yourself and household

Simple and concised but funny enough he won't do half of this or he won't even try anything at all.

You didn't GROOM your wife, hence her foolishness

Gboom:
@Op If all what you wrote is the truth, you have a lot of work to do. Firstly, you need to sit her down and state what you want from her in of so that you can have a peaceful home. Secondly, stop giving in to all her financial needs. Thirdly, lead by example as in cleaning the house together on your idle hour and instruct her on the you want henceforth. As per business, don't invest on her if she is not vast in the type of business

her to clean house how does it sound in your ears, the man has worked himself out from am to pm.work she can't cleaning she can't it good not to have wife at home op get cleaner to do your house chores let her go to her yfather house for proper training

Send her packing. But why u go marry woman without work or business?

Wakatumbit:
I and my wife have been married for close to 5 years now and we have a 2 year old baby.

The issue I'm having with my wife is that she has become a liability to me, she doesn't want to do anything.

I opened a business for her which I have spent almost 3m+, she doesn't even go to the business, I've paid rent twice on the place but I'm not sure she has even made upto 100k from it.

She doesn't do anything at home aside from cooking, she just wakes up in the morning and press her phone from morning till night, she won't sweep or clean the house, I can't even have an unexpected guest in my house because the house is always dirty and everything. The kitchen always looks like a cesspool of infection because she can't even clean it

All she wants to do is take pictures and look fine, recently she complained that I don't give her money for her upkeep and I told her that the reason I opened the business for you is so you can have your own personal income as a woman.

Through out last year, all the money I made I didn't see anything (I just struggled to get a car), because of expenses of my family and my wife isn't helping out at all.

She wants expensive things and she doesn't want to work. I'm really considering my options in the marriage because I can't continue living with that sort of a woman.

How was she different from this before you marry her?

OKOATA:
Sit her down? That line has already become stale. An adult that's old enough to know what to do is who they should sit down? Better stop giving these kinds of advices.

I hate that line "Sit her down" like mad!

Instead of dating the woman that is serious. You went for fine face and yansh.

You should have dated good women.

Like I so much hate to read that stupid line "sit her down"

OKOATA:
Sit her down? That line has already become stale. An adult that's old enough to know what to do is who they should sit down? Better stop giving these kinds of advices.