NewStats: 3,265,513 , 8,187,041 topics. Date: Sunday, 15 June 2025 at 12:54 PM 444m19

Samantha125:
How is the woman supposed to cook and clean when the op also expects her to have a career herself that'll make her a source of income? See how confused you guys are?

Use your head na

Is she using the money from that her career to pay the bills at home?

If the man is the provider, then what the hell is she using her career to do? It obviously isn't as important as the man's own, so she has to make time to cook and clean.

And for your information, men typically don't EXPECT their woman to have careers. It is the women who WANT to have careers. Men are indifferent.

eniorisha:


It's a little hard as I av limited love experience. This will be my concrete first relationship shock!

Then, my fear is, what if d next I'll meet is potentially worse? Ogbanje, gen Z, pretenders, evil & irresponsible women full everywhere.

Let me tell you this; you're definitely going to regret it if you marry that woman.

There are 25 year old single women everywhere, but you choose to marry a 38 year old with divorce baggage? You will learn the hard way if you don't use your head now.

zainkay:
Buy it, bro. I have used mine for over two years before the battery swelled. I used it for my phones and my laptop, the tv too.

is the network strong and fast? I heard Mtn mifi has stronger network but weaker battery

DonBenny77:
VDM is a fool
They people he called out have empowered more Nigerians than him the difference is the don't go along with ring light.
Burnaboy sponsors the reach foundation in Port Harcourt, he as cleared patients bills in UPTH he doled out palliatives during COVID and flooding pandemic in Rivers state, he has countless students on scholarship, he single handely renovate the cherlise homes in Port harcourt, he also brought home a Grammy.
His only fault is that he doesn't take pictures and post them as his Facebook cover pictures or make videos with those he helps because like he said they are not on social media.
Same with Wizkid and Davido they have empowered countless people in different years
Anyone who wears dark shaded to address people just want to spill nonsense that he isn't confident of, his attack was aimed at Burna he's always seeking Burnas attention. Davido and Wizkid just received unnecessary stray bullets.
VDM upgraded his singlet, pure water drinking, car and single room apartment.
Odogwu upgraded his car and he's so pained he was in tears that he had to use sunshade to set ring light and cry a river...

Which people has Wizkid empowered? Tell us how you know Wizkid has empowered "countless" people over the years.

letting people walk all over you, turning you to their foot mat, is foolishness.

No amount of rationalization will stop it from being foolishness. When people realize you're too soft and a weakling, they'll take advantage of that and use your stup!d ass however they please.

When people know they'll always get away with whatever they do to you, why won't they continue doing it? Okoro.

Nnamdipapa:


You are right, just be careful who you marry, I have a wife and still cook and clean.

Does she you in paying the bills? It would would only be fair for her to you to pay bills, since you cook and clean too.

Nnamdipapa:


As a guy, I cook and clean more than most ladies I know so there is really little and woman can contribute to me at this point.

I dey tell you guy
The ogbono soup i cook yesterday night sef, many girls nor fit cook reach like that

But if i have my woman living with me, she will cook. That one is non negotiable. If she doesn't want to be the one cooking, then we'll switch and she'll pay All the bills while i cook

Make i she how she likes paying the bills for a man

HistAfrik:
Guy you stingy o, all these things you listed she will be doing with the money has reached or even sured the 150k in this naija economy. She’s just doing this to feel closer to you and wont really benefit financially.

Of course you're a woman. I was wondering what guy would say such nonsense as this.

He's stingy but he's letting her live under his roof.
He's stingy but he's paying the bills at home.
He's stingy but he's giving her upkeep from his money.
He's stingy because he doesn't want a GIRLFRIEND to have CONTROL over his salary.

I don't blame you, i blame men who carry provider status for head.

She's cooking and cleaning, while he's providing. Isn't that supposed to be the arrangement? Why does she now want control over his salary, with her excuse that he doesn't to help her in HER contribution to home?

Does she help him to pay the bills? So why should he help her to clean?

Nnamdipapa:


Would you advise your brother to place a random girlfriend on a salary? they may end up not marrying. This is basic common sense.

The way women dey think ehnnn, just like small pikin

Make i give you control over my salary because you dey cook and clean.

I nor dey pay the bills? Abi na her own money she dey use buy foodstuffs dey cook? For food wey she go still eat from o. Na my house she dey stay.

Her contribution na to cook and clean, my own na to pay bills and give am roof over her head. Yet she wants me to give her control over my salary, and her excuse is that I don't help her to do HER CONTRIBUTION

Holluwhakemmy:
he said he didn't want redpillers input but a matured married one

What you people call "Mature", is just a man who'd do whatever you want, have no boundaries, and answer to all your demands.

A girlfriend is asking the guy to GIVE HER CONTROL OVER his Salary and you don't find an issue with it.

EmperorIsaac:

Marrying a 21 year old will be mentally demanding, as she is just a little above childhood.

Just get a girl who isn't retarded, and you're good to go

But... Just that a non retarded girl would be hard to find

EmperorIsaac:

Marriage requires a lot. If you have lived with a woman for even just 1 year, you'd not be talking like this. They are but children in adult bodies. Keeping them is a delicate venture that would require serious maturity on your part.

Oboy I go comot that childish mentality from her head

I nor dey accept that kind nonsense from woman. I will let her know that if she acts like a child, I'll treat her exactly like one. When you give them stern warnings like that, they tend to behave themselves because of the fear of consequences

Scamburster:


I have someone like that but she's just 20 years.

So long as she has everything you want in a woman and she's an Adult, oboy go for it

Youger women with working brains are the best

Marynwachukwu21:
Beauty is wrong,Beauty fades.Some women look beautiful when they marry and have kids they will be able to have time for themselves while some women look beautiful once they have kids they'll not be able to have time for themselves

Madam it is only a lazy woman that allows her beauty to fade.

Would the woman be with the kids all the time? Won't the kids grow up?
Using kids is just an excuse for why many women become fat and lose their beauty

Even if beauty fades, we still want it in the youthful woman we want to be with.

Scamburster:


What about 20 years but very matured in many aspects of life especially ability to reason like an adult?

Omo I'd go for it bro. Na wetin i even want

As long as she's not a retard, bro

But she must be below 25 years of age for me

Emeskhalifa:


Bros u see that your number 1 eh, e go dey hard to see girl wey no dey into coded hook up.

These days, they have apps that one can easily and anonymously order for them. They don't have to necessarily go and stand by the roadside to wait for customers where everyone will see them.

Normally ehnnn, many girls are PROSTITUTES but you can tell from the way they dress, their lifestyles, their mentality, the kind of places they go out to at night and the kind of friends they keep.
Those kind of girls are not that hard to figure out. The thing is that most women have this Prostitution mindset that if you want to sleep with them or date them, then you have to give them money. They don't see it as prostitution. I wonder why

Even the most decent girl still would expect a man to give her money before or after he sleeps with her. They call it "spending on your woman". That's just a way of masking the Prostitution encoded in it


Omo it's easy to know a girl who isn't wayward, but finding a girl who doesn't have that Prostitution mindset encoded in her, you go waka tire

Nor be hookup girl o, na just the mindset of Sex for money, money for sex.

Idrisk19:

It depends in the location you're.
I don't think the phone is still in the market, because they had released Spark 20 and 30 since last year.

I'm talking of a used one. I know say new one don comot market since

You know used one price now? And was it a new one you bought?

Juliearth:





Clearly, my comment is not for your type. Those with common sense figured my point of view. So permit me to delete the reply I gave to your previous mention.

Coward come and answer my question in the bolded na

You're just fighting so hard to defend this woman who doesn't want a man to defend himself from abuse if the ab is a woman.

So if a man asks you if you'll hit back if a man punches you in the mouth, and you say yes you will, and he tries to emotionally blackmail you of being a man beater, what would be your reaction?

Won't you brain tell you that there's a high likelihood that man might be an ab one day? Someone who doesn't want their victims to fight back

Use your head. If someone knows they can get away with something if they do it to you, if the opportunity arises, they're definitely going to do it.
The girl was simply asking him to see if he's the kind of idiot who'll stand there and let a woman physically assault him, and he'll just smile and walk away.
Simply put, she wants a man who won't hold her able if she becomes violent in the future. Julie, use your head abeg! 🤦

dontai:
exactly bro, is like someone asking a lady if he ràpê her, is she going to report to the police, and she said yes. Imagine the man now started labeling her a snitch' for wanting to report sexual mølêstàtîon done by him to her.
And she's trying to convince us that she ain't biased, but she kept victimizing the victim and shielding the intended ab that she didn't mean no harm.

That's just a typical woman. Always defending rubbish as long as that rubbish is coming from a fellow woman and directed towards a man.

She cannot understand that the girl is trying to see if the guy would allow her have her way with him. The girl is a potentially abusive person for her to ask that question. She wants to see if the day she gets angry and hits him, if he'll allow her or not.

But this woman cannot see that because she either doesn't have common sense, or she's just a straight up liar and defender of abuse.

Bonjovi13:


Yes I will walk straight to HR and file a complaint. His employment will be terminated.
But if I had slapped him back. It would be considered fighting and both parties will have their employment terminated.

The answer to my poser is meant to illustrate the fact that it is important for people to restrain themselves even in the
face of severe provocation especially if it will result in physicality.

Prisons all over the world has inmates in them who reacted justifiably so but unfortunately played into the ploy of the devil and their reactions caused bodily harm or fatality.


My point in life you will always need to consider what you stand to lose whenever you have a need to react to a situation.

It is a man's world we know, but society will always take sides with a woman who had been assaulted by a man. If a woman slaps a man, she may be forgiven and the world would think she was provoked or she was defending her rights but a man may lose his reputation and be called a woman beater.

See what is happening to Diddy. That woman may have done or said crazy things to him in that hotel room. But the world saw Diddy kicking and hiting her and that was it. He is destroyed.

If your woman has no value in your life, if she hits you leave the relationship. But if she does have value, teach her a lesson that she will never forget that doesn't entail hitting her back.

You stand to lose a lot when you hit a woman. Has nothing to do with weakness. Infact it reveals strength and character. My two cents

Lol you will learn one day that when you give people an edge over you, they tend to take it.

If a woman realizes that she can slap you as many times as you want and get away with it, she definitely will. You're NOT in America or the Uk.
You're in Nigeria where the law doesn't worship women that much. It is fair treatment here.

If a woman carries a Heavy block and smashes your head with it, are you still gonna turn your back to her and walk away, or are you gonna defend your life by throwing a punch? Who will arrest you in Nigeria if you defend yourself in a fight? I ask you again, if you life is in danger from a woman, would you fight back?

Bonjovi13:


LMAO. Your response says alot about the person that you are. That's okay too. Do you!!!

If a man in your workplace punches you in the eye, would you walk away?

DBestDoc:



There is a difference between being bullied and being abused physically.

Every parent owes their child that specific lifesaving skill of self defence. They must learn to be strong and stand up for themselves when no one is there to stand up for them.

Take note!
Retaliation is one thing that scare bullies far away cos they feed on fear and weakness.

That person you're quoting isn't living on planet earth.

People like that raise weak children who can't stand up for themselves. Wicked people would prey so much on those innocent kids who were unfortunate to have been born and raised by foolish parents.

Bonjovi13:


Answer this question honestly. Say you are working at a job you love and you are very well paid. If you have a serious misunderstanding with a colleague( say female, although any sex can do), and that colleague loses her cool and hands you a very dirty and public slap. Would you retailate? I am waiting?

Anybody who doesn't retaliate, is only an idiot. You know why?

If that person sees that they can get away with being violent with you, why won't they do it again another time? But if you put your foot in the ground and give it to them back instantly, they'll think twice before raising their filthy hands at you again.

It's just simple common sense.

Juliearth:







There's a 90 percent probability that she would not. The 10 percent pending is dependent on her temperament

Because you live inside her head? You're just fighting so hard to defend this woman who doesn't want a man to defend himself from abuse if the ab is a woman.

So if a man asks you if you'll hit back if a man punches you in the mouth, and you say yes you will, and he tries to emotionally blackmail you of being a man beater, what would be your reaction?

Won't you brain tell you that there's a high likelihood that man might be an ab one day? Someone who doesn't want their victims to fight back

Use your head. If someone knows they can get away with something if they do it to you, if the opportunity arises, they're definitely going to do it.
The girl was simply asking him to see if he's the kind of idiot who'll stand there and let a woman physically assault him, and he'll just smile and walk away.
Simply put, she wants a man who won't hold her able if she becomes violent in the future. Julie, use your head abeg! 🤦

Juliearth:







There's a 90 percent probability that she would not. The 10 percent pending is dependent on her temperament

Because you live inside her head? You're just fighting so hard to defend this woman who doesn't want a man to defend himself from abuse if the ab is a woman.

So if a man asks you if you'll hit back if a man punches you in the mouth, and you say yes you will, and he tries to emotionally blackmail you of being a man beater, what would be your reaction?

Won't you brain tell you that there's a high likelihood that man might be an ab one day? Someone who doesn't want their victims to fight back

Mandate1:
I agree with you to a very large extent, except for the latter part you teach your kids to retaliate.

Retaliation doesn't make one strong, it only shows our unpredictable temperament. I will always teach my child to avoid trouble, it does no one any good.

There's always an authority to report to when you're bullied. Most times the consequences of retaliation might consume ones life. Avoiding trouble, especially throuvh physical combat is the easiest route to a peaceful life.

Okoro so when the trouble find your children, wetin dem go do?
Make dem stand dey collect beating? Abi na as dem dey collect beating, dem go report give authorities?

You'll only end up raising weaklings who can't stand up for themselves. When bullies see your weak children, they'll prey on them and make their lives hell. If you like nor use your head, you think say real life na film

dontai:
no matter what.........? Dey play, until she held your bikolo for ten minutes and comot it for you. Your eyes go clear. Don't you know saying no matter what is like given her blank check, what she will write the amount your generations won't be able to pay.

Some men just too mumu. See as those mumu for up dey pride theirselves say they'll never hit a woman NO MATTER WHAT

So if woman carry knife stab them for shoulder, or Use big stone burst their head, dem nor go still Blow am for mouth because she be woman?

Foolish men.

Juliearth:






The lady didn't tow this path to let her stance known. That can easily be expressed. She manipulated op into knowing his stance on physical assault.

Physical assault as in when he's the victim of assault and the attacker is a woman?

Or when he defends himself by hitting back?

The victim is now the Villain just because he has a penis

Remijuice:

same with me bro,,, i'm looking for a way to use MTN with it.

I regret buying that thing o. the battery is good, but i get solar na...

Why do you regret buying it? And for the battery, i fit dey use power bank abi?